What your clients are afraid of in trauma therapy
Your clients come to you because they feel scared; tormented by their past, crippled by fears that hold them back, triggered by their daily lives.... and uncomfortable in their own skin.
They're scared of how it feels to be them. And, when they reach out, they are reaching out from a place of bravery, hoping that they will get relief.
Then, they come in to see you; they get good psycho-education from you, become more self aware and begin naming their emotions.
As time goes on, those initial fears soften.
And then, you get to the core of the pain...
together, you begin to uncover the root of their fear.
"I am unlovable"
"I'm stuck, it's never going to change"
"I'm alone and scared"
"It's my fault that ___"
"I'm unwanted, I don't belong anywhere"
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Beliefs start emerging; beliefs on safety, worthiness, belonging and responsibility.
And it is then that your clients face themselves on a new level. And, you get to hold them on a new level.
You start seeing how their fears are rooted in emotions that were never processed, stories never heard, need that gone unmet, or experiences that needed witnessing.
It is then that you get to take your clients on a deeper journey.
A place to face their innermost selves;
the little girl who cried herself to sleep hearing her parents fighting,
the boy who desperately sought his dad's approval, only to be met with rejection,
the teen who felt shame for his confusion around his sexuality
and the college student who felt like a misfit and never full belonged anywhere, since.
These experiences leave our clients with beliefs carved on their heart.
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Our job is to slow down, identify their beliefs, and provide therapy that heals the core of the fears.
Our clients come in with one kind of fear, and leave therapy having resolved deeper layers within themselves.
We help them meet the parts of themselves that have been shoved away for years, and guide them on a therapeutic journey.
Here's what healing looks like:
In place of fear...
....there is okay-ness to be in their skin.
....there is more capacity and energy to engage in life.
....there is more interest and joy in connecting with others.
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Now dear reader,
How do you work with fear - in your sessions?
Warmly, Esther
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Aliza Katz, LCSW, RPT Intensive EMDR Therapy for Children, Teens, and Mothers. Private Practice.
"Esther Goldstein's Trauma Therapy Course for Therapists is a comprehensive and invaluable resource that offers a remarkable combination of expert guidance, practical application, and comprehensive content.
With Esther’s clear explanations, practical examples, and emphasis on hands-on learning, therapists gain a holistic understanding of trauma therapy and the skills to effectively support clients. The course covers a range of evidence-based interventions, promotes a multi-modal approach, and provides ongoing support.
Overall, it is an exceptional resource for mental health professionals seeking to enhance their trauma therapy skills and knowledge.”
Eleanor L Brown, LPC, EMDR, and Brainspotting Trained, Trauma Therapist | Founder & CEO of Eleanor Brown Counseling, and Author
"I joined this course after hearing a colleague’s testimony, and it’s been one of the best professional decisions I’ve made. The organized layout and ability to revisit videos as often as I like make it easy to absorb the material at my own pace.
I especially appreciate how the course is structured, with materials released gradually each week, which prevents overwhelm and allows me to fully integrate what I’m learning.
What stands out most to me is Esther’s depth of knowledge and how she embodies lifelong learning.
She doesn’t just teach but also inspires us to keep growing, challenging us to dedicate time to learning instead of becoming stagnant. She creates a learning environment that is supportive yet challenging, encouraging us to step out of our comfort zones and embrace continuous development.
If you’re looking for a course that offers not only valuable content but also a deeply engaging and inspiring experience, I highly recommend this one.
It has reignited my passion for learning and helped me feel more confident in my professional journey."